It doesn't mean men are untrustworthy
but believing them means that you buy into the same model that the patriarchy has told them and sold them about how things should be.
That men are providers, that men are protectors.
That men can move mountains for their loved ones, if they only know what is needed from them.
That after they find that material provision is insufficient for love, it is the woman's problem and they've already done all that they can.
Firstly.
Yesterday, someone who said with their own mouths that they could move mountains, today said, when requested, that they could not find travel dates due to work.
This despite having settled a week-long holiday with friends months in advance.
Ladies, love freely and wholeheartedly, but protect your own heart, your own head and your own life from the folly of man.
Secondly. And more importantly.
Everyone provides for their loved ones.
Just as sometimes, we fall short and can't always provide for them fully.
How can there be humans who do not provide some sort of value? Just as there cannot be humans whose sole responsibility it is to provide.
Ultimately, the statement, "men are providers" - diminishes the value that women traditionally provide in their families, beyond the very obvious childbearing and child rearing. Food, clothing, family relationships, household upkeep, mental labour, safe harbour.
Consider me now allergic to the phrase, moving mountains.
Showing that you are capable of listening, is much more useful a provision than the herculean task of moving a mountain.
